The spirit of the word relationshift reflects that a relationship never really ends, it simply flows into something else. Through a relationshift, the relationship becomes relevant or figural again when time, opportunity and a mutual focus reemerges. The concept of relevance further expands the definition to consider the questions of who, why, when, where, and how. We have changing needs and we need to ask a host of questions as we go forward in relationships. …
Relationship Rules
Rules are defined by Webster’s New World Dictionary as an established regulation or guide for conduct. The definition for the purpose of this blog is to reinforce that each of us brings rules to our relationships based on many personal factors. These personal factors, to name a few, may include personality characteristics, boundary preferences, time availability or urgency, level of experience, geographical or global factors, comfort level, life focus, or monetary needs and constraints. The …
Reciprocity
Webster defines reciprocity as a corresponding and complementary exchange: the quality or state of being reciprocal. Through mutual dependence, action or influence, a mutual exchange of privileges takes place. This definition fits well with the underlying intention that is inherent to a relationship focus. Most long-standing relationships are grounded in some form of reciprocity in the giving and receiving of rewards. Cunningham and Antill (1981) observe that “It is indisputable that most human relationships are …
Rewardingness
Webster defines rewarding as a sense of reward or worthwhile return. We are building on this definition by defining rewardingness as an ongoing exchange and flow based on mutual benefit for all. This exchange may be in providing services or products, or sharing learning, contacts, or resources. There’s a fundamental psychological principle that people are more likely to repeat behaviors that have rewarding consequences for them than those that do not. Relationships are likely to …